In order to heal, you need to identify the part of you that are vulnerable to manipulation. We tend to be blind to our own trigger points. The best way to do this is to look at the ways your abuser attacks you. Emotional abusers are experts at identifying our weak points. They study us so that they know what levers to pull in order to maintain power and control. This can be a gift when it comes to healing and moving on to an emotionally healthy relationship. Once you have figured out what your vulnerabilities and do the work to address them, they can no longer be used against you. Simply being aware is a big start to making a difference.